Allow me to introduce myself. I’m Ashley’s husband, Grayson and I’m an Instagram Husband. For those that don’t know me, that’s a scary realization considering the type of person I am. I was born in Austin, TX to two successful yet very hippie parents. I’ve played professional paintball for the past 11 years and have been playing the sport over half my life. I work at a local hedge fund as a trader and write automated algorithms to trade on my behalf. 5 years ago, could I imagine I would be helping my wife run a successful Instagram page and blog based on women’s fashion? Hell no. I didn’t (and still don’t) have a stylish bone in my body, let alone know how to work a fancy camera. My style growing up was changing into the clothes I’d wear to school the night before so I didn’t have to worry about it in the morning. As I sit here writing this, I’m at work in a RATM (Rage Against the Machine) shirt with chlorine stains on it and the same grey shorts I’ve worn the past 3 days. Somehow over the course of the past 5 years, I would learn how to shoot a fancy camera, learn all the names of fancy shoe designers and realize purses could cost as much as cars. Without further ado, here’s the one way my life has drastically changed since I married Ashley (who I will no refer to as @dtkaustin from here on out).
Based on my intro, it would’ve been safe for you to assume that I don’t plan anything in my life. I’m more of the feather in the wind, enjoy the moment type person. @dtkaustin is the exact opposite. In this modern day world of smart phones, tablets, and hipster Macbooks, she still uses a paper calendar and planner. Running a successful blog also requires a strict routine and lots of planning. A lot of her work is based off when most of her followers are on their phones so she needs to be posting. I thought posting a picture to Instagram was simple. I was wrong (you’ll find I’ll be wrong a lot in this post, much like being a guy and being wrong in a marriage) When I post a picture, it takes me anywhere from 5-50 seconds to think of caption, I post it, and then I’m done… Crazy stuff.
For @dtkaustin, it’s an hour long process…and that’s just posting the picture and interacting with her followers. Before that picture is even posted, hours of work and planning go into it and somehow she’s deemed my opinion as worthy. On average, about 2-3 times a day, I will receive about 5 pictures of her feed with 1-2 photos differing. It’s now up to my highly logical and highly uncreative mind to determine which one fits her feed the best. I respond with my horrible opinion of which ones are my favorite, usually they include ones with more boobs or legs, and if those aren’t options, I’m usually just picking at random to satisfy @dtkaustin’s request for assistance.
Now that the photo is chosen, my highly logical and highly uncreative brain is put to another test, picking a caption. If you thought picking the picture was hard, picking a caption for a guy with no fashion sense or knowledge is similar to climbing Mt. Everest with your swim trunks on. Although, I know my input is much less desired at this point, I’ve had the honor of writing or being part of the creative team behind some of her captions. Most of my captions usually revolve around boobs or legs as well (no surprise) but on occasion, I’ll quote Justin Timberlake if her back is showing (but I know we can only use that once a quarter.)
At this point you’re probably wondering why a very successful (and beautiful) wardrobe stylist would need this much help from a hippie who trades stocks and plays paintball. Well good, me too. It’s also safe to say it’s quite mind blowing that so much trust is put into my incapable hands but trust me it gets worse…much worse.
Incase I forgot to mention, @dtkaustin is a wardrobe stylist. Like, she styles other people for HUGE advertising campaigns and worked as a stylist for Neiman Marcus years before her commercial career. People literally pay her to dress other people up so they don’t look stupid. It’s something I’ve learned is actually a very, very important job (I’m looking at you Trivago man) and have the upmost respect since now I can pick out a crappy styling job that defeats the purpose of someone spending tons of money on everything else. She’s really good at her job and it’s been amazing to see the success she’s had with it.
With that being said, who do think styles her for her photo shoots? The logical answer would be her, I mean she’s a wardrobe stylist and has been for years….but you’re wrong. It’s me, that same hippie with a highly logical and highly uncreative mind is helping pick out and put together outfits for a successful FASHION blogger and wardrobe STYLIST. There’s a theme forming here and it doesn’t change much. Guess which outfits are my favorite…you guessed it, the ones with more boobs and legs.
At least those make sense in my male brain. Where she really pushes me to my limits though is with flat lays. The fact that I know what a flat lay is, is really depressing. It’s literally a picture with crap laid out in the specific pattern on the ground. Somehow, in the past 5 years, she’s assumed I’ve turned gay for style, accessed the creative side of my brain that’s been dormant for 30 years and started understanding good fundamental design for laying crap on the floor and taking pictures of it. With the severe lack of boobs or legs in crap lying on the floor, I’ve reached my boiling point of creative design and rarely offer any worthwhile advice. It’s probably the last bastion of her blog and gram that have not been affected by me in any shape or form. So please for the love of God, give her a like and comment on the flat lays.
I had grand plans of banging this out in one post but once I got started, I got a little carried away. Looks like we’re breaking this into several parts…up next I’ll cover purchasing things or going places for a picture and the ungodly amount of boxes I’ve broken down as a result of free shit.
On Ashley –
Maxi Dress – Forever 21 (Similar HERE and HERE) // Shoes – Public Desire
Handbag – Chanel (Similar HERE) // Sunglasses – Nordstrom // Watch – Chanel J12
On Grayson –
Shirt – Nordstrom // Jeans – AG // Shoes – Timberland
Sunglasses – Oliver Peoples (Similar HERE) // Hat – Macy’s // Watch – Diesel
Photos by Andrew Chan
Dying of laughter right now. That is all.
Oh my gosh this post was so good and funny!!
Grayson – you crack me up this post is too cute.
Very enlightening. Ha, ha, ha.
Loved this post! I always love hearing the guy’s point of view!
This such a great post! I love hearing your hubby’s point of view!! Wonderful photos too!!
I absolutely love this! Sending to my hubs stat!
xo Laura Leigh
Hahaha I love this! You and my husband would be friends–he feels the same. Great post!
I normally do not comment, but you have a keeper there!! Too funny!! I am at work and literally laughed out loud!! You are a beautiful couple!
Hahaha, thank you so much for reading and taking the time to respond!! 😉
Oh my gosh! I LOVE the guy’s side of this crazy fashion Instagram world! This was SO good!!
This is hilarious and (according to my husband) so accurate! My husband never realized how much work goes into blogging or even posting to IG for a blog until he started helping me haha. Aren’t we blessed with such wonderful guys?
We really are! What would we do without them??? But really… haha
This is awesome! My husband definitely can relate! Especially if we go out and he’s got to wait to eat or do something. I’m passing this along to him!
This is so cute!! My husband can definitely relate, too! Bless our men haha It’s always nice to have a partner who supports you!
Maggie @ Polished Closets
This is so amazing. I can’t wait for the next posts lol. Literally LOL’d at the fact that he knows what a flatlay is and it’s depressing Thank God for our insta hubby’s!!
Awesome. Can’t wait to meet you, Grayson. The only photo shoot I’ve ever been a part of was with Ashley and probably a disposable camera. And then she made me cheese cake.
hahahahaha oh, the good ole’ days!!!! Cheesecake sounds so good right now!
OMG you two. This is awesome. Ashley your blog is great, your writing is fantastic, and you know I’ve been reading for a bit… but this is seriously amazing.
MY FAVORITE POST ON THE WEB ALL YEAR… I MEAN MAYBE FOR THE PAST 5 YEARS…. BEST. POST. EVER. HE IS HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! More of Grayson please!!! ADORE yall!!! XOXO
LOVE everything about this post! The humor and honesty is on point on so many levels Good to see my husband is not alone! He’s IT all the way, doesn’t care for fashion yet I will show him every collection as if I were standing in front of Anna Wintour herself So happy for your success together❤️
hahahah this is so great! hilarious!
We need more Grayson posts on the blog hahaha. Thank you Grayson for all the sacrifices you make for DTK Austin.
this is awesome! I loved reading and y’all are adorable!
Lol this is awesome. His comment on flat lay is totally something my husband would say. xo ~ Megan
Laugh out loud funny, big bro! Haha! Can’t wait for the next one! Ashley, I always enjoy your Instagram pics and you blog posts. I’ll make sure to like the “flat lays” more often – hehe! – and G, thanks for letting me know what those are called. I’m going to use this new term at least 3 times this week to impress my more social media savvy friends. Love to you both!
Happy anniversary to a lovely couple
This post is so great!! I love hearing it from his perspective!! Haha ‘more boobs and legs’. Too funny!
Love the post so much! My husband can relate to it so much! Great article!
Totally loved this post. I love how generously men’s point of view really differs from women. Love your photos and you two look like a power couple! Keep loving each other.
such a great post idea!!! i wonder where you got it from!!
From Grayson, actually!! He came up with the idea on his own!
HAHA this is great!!! Loved it. So creative.
Y’all compliment each other so well!
Having a supportive husband is the best.
Grayson, this is fantastically written and spot on. I’m going to forward this to my fiancé who is just like you 😀 He’d appreciate reading this for sure. You’re a dynamic creative team and I give you a lot of props!
such a gorgeous shot of you two<3
Can’t wait to read your next post! Sounds like you both make a fantastic team!
This was so funny! These kind of posts are always so much fun to read! xo
Love this! So much truth!
OMG this is hilarious! “Boobs and legs” .. love it!
omg this is amazing – my bf feels the same way about boobs and legs lol
Lost at at the boobs and legs part. Great post!
Love this idea for a post! You guys are too cute! I should get my bf to do a post too! lol
Sabrina | Gypsy Tan
HAHA this post seriously made my day. I love reading the IG husband’s thoughts on the world of blogging. I’d be curious what my BF would crank out if I asked him for a post like this. More of Grayson, please and thanks! He’s great!
This is so refreshing! I really love love love this post! I love the energy between the both of you!
xo Debbie | http://www.tothineownstylebetrue.com
This post is awesome! I love how great Grayson’s decisions are and I love his honesty ha!
This is everything! I am sending this to my husband right now!!
Hahaha my husband is right there too! Love this! And your dress
hahaha dying laughing and my husband is the same way! Love this so much and can’t wait for more posts!
This post is awesome. One, your husband is an awesome writer! Two, I was cracking up the whole time. I too send my husband a few different options of my ig feed & I ask his opinion (which I often go with). I too ask him for caption ideas (which I pretty much never go with, in fact at this point he says, “You know I don’t know”). I’ll have to ask him if he knows what a flatlay is or not. I brag that he knows a cold-shoulder, & duvet, haha.
OMG this is the best blog post EVER. The best. Also have to say thanks to Ashley to responding (almost immediately) to a question I asked on an Instagram post. I figured my chances of getting a response was slim to none (take no offense… we are all busy), so was thrilled to get one and get one so fast. 🙂
You are too sweet!! I try and answer everyone’s questions but if I ever miss one of yours DM me on Insta and I’ll see that! 🙂