{My Life as an Instagram Husband – Written by Grayson}

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Allow me to introduce myself. I’m Ashley’s husband, Grayson and I’m an Instagram Husband. For those that don’t know me, that’s a scary realization considering the type of person I am. I was born in Austin, TX to two successful yet very hippie parents. I’ve played professional paintball for the past 11 years and have been playing the sport over half my life. I work at a local hedge fund as a trader and write automated algorithms to trade on my behalf. 5 years ago, could I imagine I would be helping my wife run a successful Instagram page and blog based on women’s fashion? Hell no. I didn’t (and still don’t) have a stylish bone in my body, let alone know how to work a fancy camera. My style growing up was changing into the clothes I’d wear to school the night before so I didn’t have to worry about it in the morning. As I sit here writing this, I’m at work in a RATM (Rage Against the Machine) shirt with chlorine stains on it and the same grey shorts I’ve worn the past 3 days. Somehow over the course of the past 5 years, I would learn how to shoot a fancy camera, learn all the names of fancy shoe designers and realize purses could cost as much as cars. Without further ado, here’s the one way my life has drastically changed since I married Ashley (who I will no refer to as @dtkaustin from here on out).

Based on my intro, it would’ve been safe for you to assume that I don’t plan anything in my life. I’m more of the feather in the wind, enjoy the moment type person. @dtkaustin is the exact opposite. In this modern day world of smart phones, tablets, and hipster Macbooks, she still uses a paper calendar and planner. Running a successful blog also requires a strict routine and lots of planning. A lot of her work is based off when most of her followers are on their phones so she needs to be posting. I thought posting a picture to Instagram was simple. I was wrong (you’ll find I’ll be wrong a lot in this post, much like being a guy and being wrong in a marriage) When I post a picture, it takes me anywhere from 5-50 seconds to think of caption, I post it, and then I’m done… Crazy stuff.

For @dtkaustin, it’s an hour long process…and that’s just posting the picture and interacting with her followers. Before that picture is even posted, hours of work and planning go into it and somehow she’s deemed my opinion as worthy. On average, about 2-3 times a day, I will receive about 5 pictures of her feed with 1-2 photos differing. It’s now up to my highly logical and highly uncreative mind to determine which one fits her feed the best. I respond with my horrible opinion of which ones are my favorite, usually they include ones with more boobs or legs, and if those aren’t options, I’m usually just picking at random to satisfy @dtkaustin’s request for assistance.

Now that the photo is chosen, my highly logical and highly uncreative brain is put to another test, picking a caption. If you thought picking the picture was hard, picking a caption for a guy with no fashion sense or knowledge is similar to climbing Mt. Everest with your swim trunks on. Although, I know my input is much less desired at this point, I’ve had the honor of writing or being part of the creative team behind some of her captions. Most of my captions usually revolve around boobs or legs as well (no surprise) but on occasion, I’ll quote Justin Timberlake if her back is showing (but I know we can only use that once a quarter.)

At this point you’re probably wondering why a very successful (and beautiful) wardrobe stylist would need this much help from a hippie who trades stocks and plays paintball. Well good, me too. It’s also safe to say it’s quite mind blowing that so much trust is put into my incapable hands but trust me it gets worse…much worse.

Incase I forgot to mention, @dtkaustin is a wardrobe stylist. Like, she styles other people for HUGE advertising campaigns and worked as a stylist for Neiman Marcus years before her commercial career. People literally pay her to dress other people up so they don’t look stupid. It’s something I’ve learned is actually a very, very important job (I’m looking at you Trivago man) and have the upmost respect since now I can pick out a crappy styling job that defeats the purpose of someone spending tons of money on everything else. She’s really good at her job and it’s been amazing to see the success she’s had with it.

With that being said, who do think styles her for her photo shoots? The logical answer would be her, I mean she’s a wardrobe stylist and has been for years….but you’re wrong. It’s me, that same hippie with a highly logical and highly uncreative mind is helping pick out and put together outfits for a successful FASHION blogger and wardrobe STYLIST. There’s a theme forming here and it doesn’t change much. Guess which outfits are my favorite…you guessed it, the ones with more boobs and legs.

At least those make sense in my male brain. Where she really pushes me to my limits though is with flat lays. The fact that I know what a flat lay is, is really depressing. It’s literally a picture with crap laid out in the specific pattern on the ground. Somehow, in the past 5 years, she’s assumed I’ve turned gay for style, accessed the creative side of my brain that’s been dormant for 30 years and started understanding good fundamental design for laying crap on the floor and taking pictures of it. With the severe lack of boobs or legs in crap lying on the floor, I’ve reached my boiling point of creative design and rarely offer any worthwhile advice. It’s probably the last bastion of her blog and gram that have not been affected by me in any shape or form. So please for the love of God, give her a like and comment on the flat lays.

I had grand plans of banging this out in one post but once I got started, I got a little carried away. Looks like we’re breaking this into several parts…up next I’ll cover purchasing things or going places for a picture and the ungodly amount of boxes I’ve broken down as a result of free shit.

Outfit Details:Β 

On Ashley –Β 

Maxi Dress – Forever 21 (Similar HERE and HERE) // Shoes – Public Desire

Handbag – Chanel (Similar HERE) // Sunglasses – Nordstrom // Watch – Chanel J12

On Grayson –Β 

Shirt – Nordstrom // Jeans – AG // Shoes – Timberland

Sunglasses – Oliver Peoples (Similar HERE) // Hat – Macy’s //Β Watch – Diesel

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to Kill

Austin Blogger DTKAustin's husband is spilling the beans on what it's like being an Instagram Husband and being married to a fashion blogger and stylist. | anniversary photo ideas | styling for an anniversary shoot | anniversary photo shoot fashion tips | what to wear for an anniversary photo shoot | how to style a maxi dress | couples fashion | his and her summer fashion || Dressed to KillPhotos by Andrew Chan

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53 Comments

  • Reply
    Shira
    July 25, 2017 at 3:30 am

    Dying of laughter right now. That is all.

    http://asequinloveaffair.com

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    Bella
    July 25, 2017 at 3:38 am

    Oh my gosh this post was so good and funny!!

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    Pam Dorrell
    July 25, 2017 at 4:20 am

    Grayson – you crack me up this post is too cute.

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    Diane Flynn
    July 25, 2017 at 5:15 am

    Very enlightening. Ha, ha, ha.

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    Annie
    July 25, 2017 at 1:45 pm

    Loved this post! I always love hearing the guy’s point of view!

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    Nataly
    July 25, 2017 at 2:24 pm

    This such a great post! I love hearing your hubby’s point of view!! Wonderful photos too!!

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    Laura Leigh
    July 25, 2017 at 2:33 pm

    I absolutely love this! Sending to my hubs stat!

    xo Laura Leigh
    http://www.louellareese.com

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    Missy
    July 25, 2017 at 2:43 pm

    Hahaha I love this! You and my husband would be friends–he feels the same. Great post!
    X
    Missy
    http://popofstyle.com

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    Annette
    July 25, 2017 at 3:02 pm

    I normally do not comment, but you have a keeper there!! Too funny!! I am at work and literally laughed out loud!! You are a beautiful couple!

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      Ashley Hargrove
      July 25, 2017 at 3:25 pm

      Hahaha, thank you so much for reading and taking the time to respond!! πŸ˜‰

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    Kelssey Layton
    July 25, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    Oh my gosh! I LOVE the guy’s side of this crazy fashion Instagram world! This was SO good!!

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    Annie Fairfax
    July 25, 2017 at 3:41 pm

    This is hilarious and (according to my husband) so accurate! My husband never realized how much work goes into blogging or even posting to IG for a blog until he started helping me haha. Aren’t we blessed with such wonderful guys?

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      Ashley Hargrove
      July 25, 2017 at 3:44 pm

      We really are! What would we do without them??? But really… haha

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    Laura
    July 25, 2017 at 3:57 pm

    This is awesome! My husband definitely can relate! Especially if we go out and he’s got to wait to eat or do something. I’m passing this along to him!

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    Maggie
    July 25, 2017 at 7:43 pm

    This is so cute!! My husband can definitely relate, too! Bless our men haha It’s always nice to have a partner who supports you!

    Maggie @ Polished Closets

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    Mary Powers
    July 25, 2017 at 7:59 pm

    This is so amazing. I can’t wait for the next posts lol. Literally LOL’d at the fact that he knows what a flatlay is and it’s depressing Thank God for our insta hubby’s!!

    – Mary
    http://www.MissMaryPowers.com

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    Uncle Bekah
    July 25, 2017 at 9:20 pm

    Awesome. Can’t wait to meet you, Grayson. The only photo shoot I’ve ever been a part of was with Ashley and probably a disposable camera. And then she made me cheese cake.

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      Ashley Hargrove
      July 26, 2017 at 2:00 am

      hahahahaha oh, the good ole’ days!!!! Cheesecake sounds so good right now!

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    Stephanie Hirsch
    July 25, 2017 at 10:34 pm

    OMG you two. This is awesome. Ashley your blog is great, your writing is fantastic, and you know I’ve been reading for a bit… but this is seriously amazing.

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    Ruthie
    July 25, 2017 at 11:35 pm

    MY FAVORITE POST ON THE WEB ALL YEAR… I MEAN MAYBE FOR THE PAST 5 YEARS…. BEST. POST. EVER. HE IS HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! More of Grayson please!!! ADORE yall!!! XOXO

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    Raquel Howell
    July 26, 2017 at 6:48 am

    LOVE everything about this post! The humor and honesty is on point on so many levels Good to see my husband is not alone! He’s IT all the way, doesn’t care for fashion yet I will show him every collection as if I were standing in front of Anna Wintour herself So happy for your success together❀️

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    Sarah K Tripp
    July 26, 2017 at 1:24 pm

    hahahah this is so great! hilarious!

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    Nicole Green
    July 26, 2017 at 1:44 pm

    We need more Grayson posts on the blog hahaha. Thank you Grayson for all the sacrifices you make for DTK Austin.

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    Shelby Back
    July 26, 2017 at 1:55 pm

    this is awesome! I loved reading and y’all are adorable!

    xo!
    Shelby
    http://www.glitterandgingham.com

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    megan
    July 26, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    Lol this is awesome. His comment on flat lay is totally something my husband would say. xo ~ Megan

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    Lil' Sis
    July 26, 2017 at 6:20 pm

    Laugh out loud funny, big bro! Haha! Can’t wait for the next one! Ashley, I always enjoy your Instagram pics and you blog posts. I’ll make sure to like the “flat lays” more often – hehe! – and G, thanks for letting me know what those are called. I’m going to use this new term at least 3 times this week to impress my more social media savvy friends. Love to you both!

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    Deb Hamilton-Lynne
    July 26, 2017 at 7:56 pm

    Happy anniversary to a lovely couple

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    Rach
    July 26, 2017 at 10:00 pm

    This post is so great!! I love hearing it from his perspective!! Haha ‘more boobs and legs’. Too funny!

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

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    Julia Comil
    July 26, 2017 at 10:11 pm

    Love the post so much! My husband can relate to it so much! Great article!

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    Kat Y.
    July 26, 2017 at 11:55 pm

    Totally loved this post. I love how generously men’s point of view really differs from women. Love your photos and you two look like a power couple! Keep loving each other.

    xo, KatrissaTalks

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    Jenna Colgrove
    July 27, 2017 at 12:48 am

    such a great post idea!!! i wonder where you got it from!!

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      Ashley Hargrove
      July 27, 2017 at 3:05 am

      From Grayson, actually!! He came up with the idea on his own!

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    christina
    July 27, 2017 at 1:15 am

    HAHA this is great!!! Loved it. So creative.

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    Anna English
    July 27, 2017 at 3:29 am

    Y’all compliment each other so well!

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    Emily | Style Me Tactical
    July 27, 2017 at 12:17 pm

    Having a supportive husband is the best.

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    Lauren Nakagawa
    July 27, 2017 at 4:42 pm

    Grayson, this is fantastically written and spot on. I’m going to forward this to my fiancΓ© who is just like you πŸ˜€ He’d appreciate reading this for sure. You’re a dynamic creative team and I give you a lot of props!

    xx
    Lauren
    http://www.shoesandsashimi.com

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    maria
    July 27, 2017 at 5:03 pm

    such a gorgeous shot of you two<3

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    Sydney
    July 27, 2017 at 11:00 pm

    Can’t wait to read your next post! Sounds like you both make a fantastic team!

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    Kelsey
    July 27, 2017 at 11:54 pm

    This was so funny! These kind of posts are always so much fun to read! xo

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    KatWalkSF
    July 28, 2017 at 10:58 am

    Love this! So much truth!

    -Kat
    http://www.katwalksf.com/

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    Kristina
    July 28, 2017 at 12:41 pm

    OMG this is hilarious! “Boobs and legs” .. love it!

    xo, Kristina

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    Lacey
    July 28, 2017 at 3:06 pm

    omg this is amazing – my bf feels the same way about boobs and legs lol

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    Derek
    July 28, 2017 at 6:14 pm

    Lost at at the boobs and legs part. Great post!

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    SABRINA TAN
    July 28, 2017 at 8:29 pm

    Love this idea for a post! You guys are too cute! I should get my bf to do a post too! lol

    Sabrina | Gypsy Tan
    http://www.gypsytan.co

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    Stephanie
    July 28, 2017 at 9:35 pm

    HAHA this post seriously made my day. I love reading the IG husband’s thoughts on the world of blogging. I’d be curious what my BF would crank out if I asked him for a post like this. More of Grayson, please and thanks! He’s great!

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    Debbie Savage
    July 30, 2017 at 7:54 am

    This is so refreshing! I really love love love this post! I love the energy between the both of you!
    xo Debbie | http://www.tothineownstylebetrue.com

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    Kasey | Running in Heels
    July 30, 2017 at 6:00 pm

    This post is awesome! I love how great Grayson’s decisions are and I love his honesty ha!

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    Stuart Brazell
    July 31, 2017 at 6:41 pm

    This is everything! I am sending this to my husband right now!!

    XOXO http://www.StuartSays.com

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    chloe
    August 1, 2017 at 12:45 pm

    Hahaha my husband is right there too! Love this! And your dress
    http://beyondblessedblog.com/

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    Tayler Malott
    August 2, 2017 at 12:36 am

    hahaha dying laughing and my husband is the same way! Love this so much and can’t wait for more posts!

    XO
    http://www.taylermalott.com

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    Kara Aragon
    August 3, 2017 at 9:24 pm

    This post is awesome. One, your husband is an awesome writer! Two, I was cracking up the whole time. I too send my husband a few different options of my ig feed & I ask his opinion (which I often go with). I too ask him for caption ideas (which I pretty much never go with, in fact at this point he says, “You know I don’t know”). I’ll have to ask him if he knows what a flatlay is or not. I brag that he knows a cold-shoulder, & duvet, haha.

    Kara Aragon
    http://www.thekaragon.com

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    eryn
    August 11, 2017 at 3:16 am

    OMG this is the best blog post EVER. The best. Also have to say thanks to Ashley to responding (almost immediately) to a question I asked on an Instagram post. I figured my chances of getting a response was slim to none (take no offense… we are all busy), so was thrilled to get one and get one so fast. πŸ™‚

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      Ashley Hargrove
      August 11, 2017 at 4:00 am

      You are too sweet!! I try and answer everyone’s questions but if I ever miss one of yours DM me on Insta and I’ll see that! πŸ™‚

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